Wednesday, December 23, 2015

Merry Christmas and a Very Happy New Year

Hi My Blogger Friends,

Just a quick little note to let you know we are both O.K.  This first chemo treatment Joe only experienced mild fatigue, appetite is mediocre and the weather hasn't made walking, the only exercise he feels like doing, feasible. He has lost 20 lbs now but we were told to expect that. I have been teased that I'm the one who caused him to gain 20 pounds after I married him because  he always ate every thing I put on his plate.  I argued, he knew how to say no thank you......

He had a Dr. appointment today, two tomorrow and an ultrasound on Sunday (Adventist Hospital do those things on Sunday) then he has one more appointment, Another Dr. appointment on the 29th and Chemo on the 30th.  So to say the least, we are on Doctor appointment overload.  But these are all part of the big picture of the good care Joe is receiving and for that we are very thankful. 

So many of you have told us you are glad I kept the blog going, that you went through our happy adventures with us and now you want to walk with us on this not so happy journey.  So this is one of the times it's hard for me to write about but it's all part of the big picture.  At today's appointment with our primary care family physician, he felt we both should see a counselor for a time or two to help us with our communication skills in facing this "elephant in our living room" We both agreed. He has been our doctor for five years now. And he described us pretty well today. Betty is a helicopter wife, hovering over her honey, being the best care giver she can be and she's smothering him.  Joe is a quiet, kind, patient man who keeps everything inside........... yep.
He told us he has many cancer patients and it's very common to see the spouse become sicker than the one with the cancer  because of all the stress and not dealing with it well.  Those of you who know me well, know my eyes "leak" on a regular basis and sometimes it can turn into a flood!!  I try very hard not to have that happen in front of Joe, but a couple times I couldn't make it to my place for tears.  Just so you know, our faith and trust in the Lord is as strong as ever. But we also believe the Lord has put some really good counselors on this earth to help us over the rough spots.   ( I call them Jesus with skin on) 
So that's how it is for the moment. No pictures tonight. It's very peaceful in our home, sitting in our recliners, watching Christmas movies holding hands........ 

Tomorrow after we get done with the Dr. appointments and a quick visit from one of Joe's cousins,  I'll start cooking Christmas Dinner. We  splurged and bought a Honey Baked Ham.  To that I'll also have  Mashed Potatoes, Sweet Potato Casserole, Green Bean Casserole, Green Salad,  a nice dessert made with Cool Whip, Cottage Cheese, and Strawberry Jello. Joe's son and his fiancee are going to come for the day. I have a "honey doo" list for him... not much. Just want a picture my niece gave us and I had framed to be hung over our fireplace and it is to heavy for Joe to do.
So as I close my blog for this evening, Joe and I want to say thank you for all the cards, letters, phone calls and gifts.  God bless all of you for blessing us. Merry Christmas and a Happy Wonderful New Year to you.